Sunday, August 12, 2007

Think Before You Speak

Sometimes I wonder what I must look like as a mom of 3 boys. It's my life, a life that I love, but from the comments I get sometimes you'd think 3 boys is a punishment. Oh your KIDDING. I don't know how you DO it. And I'm good at not letting the things people say bother me because unless you have all boys, you can't understand just how wonderful it is.

Last night we went out to dinner to a small Mexican restaurant. Our meal was over and Carter was DONE. He wanted down, so I told Monte I'd take him outside while he got the bill and paid. We were almost to our car when the hostess came running out after us. We had left something on the table. An older couple was also walking to their car and the husband said to Monte, "are you sure you didn't forget a kid in there?" Okay, now was he joking, or truly annoyed because we brought our fussy baby to dinner? Monte must have thought he was joking because he joked right back. "no, we have them all but 2 are for sale." We laughed, hee hee, even the boys, but then the wife says, "well do you have any girls? We'd take a girl." What? We didn't even respond. Just got in our car and drove away.


Blogger Adventures In Babywearing said...

Wow! That's horrible!!

I get that all the time- about "all boys" and pity. People don't think sometimes!


6:38 AM  
Blogger Happi said...

Where are people's brains? Either they don't have children of their own or they have forgotten what it's like to have little ones!

8:10 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

That is so rude. I hope they got the hint when you didn't respond.

10:07 AM  
Blogger Beck said...

Some people are just stupid. I love my Boy!

1:05 PM  
Blogger jennifer said...

Are you kidding? Boy that hacks me off. I used to get so mad at the comments I would get when I was pregnant with my third boy. Like it was second to having a girl. People can be so stupid.

2:48 PM  
Blogger Glass Half Full said...

Open mouth....insert foot!!!

3:42 PM  
Blogger Elizabeth F. said...

Oh my! To me, the man's comment sounded like a jab about you ahving too many kids or something. I get that alot too! How many do you have? How close together are they? Are you having any MORE? It pisses me off, b/c I love my kids and they are my life. I shouldn't have to apologize for wanting them or even more of them! Hmmm... now I have to go rant about this on my blog tomorrow! LOL! Boys do get a bum wrap though, and it's not fair!

10:45 PM  
Blogger carrielouise said...

In defense of boys: I have three and one girl. There are many, many days that the emotional turmoil of dealing with a girl far outweighs anything a boy can dish out. They are much easier to persuade into a good mood!

11:08 PM  
Anonymous Peant Butter and Jelly Boats said...

People are so rude! I can't believe what people think is ok to say. People say that kind of crap to me ALL. THE. TIME. I like to think that it takes a special woman to be the mother of 3 boys, an exclusive club, if you will, and they are just jealous that they weren't even invited in!! ; )

7:59 AM  
Blogger Lori_N said...

I get the comments a lot too. I have 4 BOYS, no girls, thank you very much. Two of them are twins, which just throws people off, I guess. I love being the only girl. I love that fact that I can say, "Come on boys, time to go". It's great being the queen!!


That couple was just jealous. They must have had a daughter...hee, hee!

8:31 AM  
Blogger Jamie said...

I'm glad you posted this, because I never would have considered it offensive. But clearly a lot of people do!!
I truly wonder how parents with multiple kids do what they do, because just one kids wears me out! Of course it's that much more love in the house, but it must be a lot of work!
When I make comments, or conversation as I see it, with other mothers in public I certainly mean no offense, just amazed at how they handle it all.
I will certainly "think before I speak" as you say, because I had no idea that mothers found it to be so rude.

11:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow. I wouldn't have known what to say either. And let me tell you, girls aren't easy as pie! Don't even get me started on the attitudes I get from SloMo, and theBeast can have fits right with the boys!!! lol.

9:34 PM  
Anonymous casual friday everyday said...

Ummm, okay! How strange. I love my boys...wouldn't trade them for the world. I'd be happy if I had a whole brood of them.

7:38 PM  
Anonymous Randi said...

Some people are just stupid:( So rude!

7:22 AM  
Blogger Heather said...

all boys is great!!! I want more!

9:49 AM  
Anonymous mrs incredible said...

That's when you yell, "Food Fight!" and let the boys have at 'em. You know, boys will be boys and all that... ;)

8:16 PM  
Blogger Alli said...

People ask me all the time if we are going to try for a girl or if we are done. As if those are the only two options--a girl or my boys aren't good enough. Perhaps I'm too sensitive. My answer is "neither". We aren't necessarily done and if we aren't done we won't be trying for a girl (or a boy for that matter, just for another child).

I think people just try to be funny or to make small talk and don't realize how insensitive and/or dumb they sound.

10:22 PM  
Blogger Tracey said...

Urggghhh... because, you know, boys are such second-rate children.

9:55 AM  

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